Today is my birthday. Like a scene out of The Office.
I went through my quarter life crisis right before turning 24. Ever since then, I’ve realized that I take the time around my birthday to reflect about my life. Some people use New Years as a time for resolutions, but I use my birthday. I’m going to share with you a few of my reflections for my last year in my twenties.
1. Stop wasting time and energy on people that don’t want to spend time with you
This one is most definitely about my love life. Let me take a second to humble brag a bit. I honestly have a great life! I am completely in love with my job, I have the most amazing friends and a wonderful, supportive family, my credit score is excellent, and I’m looking to buy a house all on my own. I’m fortunate to be where I’m at today, but there’s still one thing I haven’t been able to accomplish. Growing up in a Mexican family, I always thought that I was going to get married and have kids at a young age. In my early 20s, I was on track for that to happen. But then life kicks ya in the ass and fucks your shit up. Now that I’m a seasoned veteran in the dating game, I’ve learned a lot. I used to give chances because I wanted to believe that not all guys were the same. But alas, trust your gut because all guys are the same.
…Just kidding, but moral of the story: trust your gut. The line that really sticks with me is, “If a guy wants to be with you, he’ll be with you.” I am probably one of the most busy people you’ll meet, but I always make time to be social. You can’t tell me that your schedule is so busy that you can’t take a couple hours of the evening to have dinner or go for drinks. I’ve had to learn the hard way that guys will string you along for whatever reason, and I’m tired of waiting to see if their actions will follow what they say. The last two guys I’ve dated have strung me along and told me that they want to spend time with me, but have a lot of work. One even told me to just wait until after tax season and things will get better. Well, I patiently waited and right before tax season ended, he ghosted me. Then right after that I had a guy that would make plans with me and then cancel last minute every. single. time. I refuse to keep trying and keep thinking that things will be different. I don’t want to spend my 29th year or life being sad over dumb boys.
2.Be a better friend
I’m not the worst friend, but I definitely have areas of improvement. I’ve been pulling the drunk tia move too often lately when it comes to buying gifts. Oh, you’re having a baby? Here’s money. Oh, it’s your birthday? Boom, you get money! I will write a really meaningful card, but to be honest, I don’t like to go out and buy gifts, so money is easier. I used to love to give people gifts, and I really got away from that.
I also need to be better at replying to texts. I hate that I’ll read a message and think, “Oh, I’ll respond to that later.” Because my dumbass forgets until a day later. I’m also going to try my best to just text friends and see how they are. I have so much going on in my own life that I sometimes forget that my friends can be going through something too. So don’t be surprised if you get a random text from me.
3. Get out of my comfort zone more
I want to start attending more networking events throughout the city. Education is something I’m very passionate about and there’s a lot to keep updated with. There are so many things I want to accomplish at my job, but I feel like I can make a bigger impact if I talk to other professionals in San Antonio and learn from them. I am the most introvert extrovert you will ever meet, so I think getting out there will help me be better at being more on the extrovert side.
I’m also the kind of person that doesn’t like being the center of attention. Which means when I’m in a public setting, I will do everything I can to not draw attention to myself. I think this has hindered me from being my true genuine self because I will hold back from being the only person dancing or trying something out. I want to work on being able to laugh at myself and not taking everything so seriously.
I’m excited to see what 29 brings me. It took me a long time to finally get over the fact that I may not be married and have kids before I turn 30. I’ve finally come to terms with the things I can’t control. Because of this, I will be able to enjoy my last year being in my 20s. I’ve always said that I’m going to have a full fledge mental breakdown when I turn 30. So just in case, I’ll try and enjoy my 29th year as much as possible!